Who helped shape the person you are today? A Bahá’í Reflection on Father’s Day

Who helped shape the person you are today?

For many of us, the answer is not found in a single moment, but in thousands of quiet acts, a father’s patient advice, his sacrifices made unseen, his encouragement when we doubted ourselves, his example when words were not enough.

In a world that often celebrates achievement, wealth, and influence, the work of a father can easily go unnoticed. Yet few forces shape a human life more profoundly than the love, guidance, and character of a devoted parent.

The Bahá’í teachings elevate fatherhood beyond a social role or family obligation. Fatherhood is a sacred trust, an opportunity to nurture souls, cultivate virtues, and contribute to the advancement of civilization itself.

Bahá’u’lláh writes:

“God hath prescribed unto every father to educate his children, both boys and girls, in the sciences and in morals, and in crafts and professions.”

This simple yet profound command reveals that a father’s responsibility extends far beyond providing food, shelter, or financial security. A father is entrusted with helping his children discover their capacities and develop the qualities that will enable them to serve humanity.

‘Abdu’l-Bahá explains:

“The father must always endeavour to educate his son and to acquaint him with the heavenly teachings. He must give him advice and exhort him at all times, teach him praiseworthy conduct and character…”

In the Bahá’í view, fathers are builders of character. Their greatest legacy is not what they leave behind, but what they instill within the hearts of their children.

This responsibility is especially significant in raising daughters. At a time when many societies still struggle with inequality, the Bahá’í teachings call upon fathers to be champions of the education, dignity, and advancement of girls. A father who believes in his daughter, encourages her talents, and supports her spiritual and intellectual growth contributes not only to her future but to the progress of society itself.

Yet the Bahá’í writings remind us that fatherhood is not a one-sided relationship. Just as fathers have obligations toward their children, children have responsibilities toward their parents.

Bahá’u’lláh lovingly counsels:

“Say, O My people! Show honour to your parents and pay homage to them. This will cause blessings to descend upon you from the clouds of the bounty of your Lord.”

In a culture that often prizes independence above gratitude, these words offer a different vision, one in which honoring our parents is not merely a courtesy but a spiritual principle that attracts divine blessings.

Perhaps the most striking statement in the Bahá’í writings concerning parents is this:

“Should anyone give you a choice between the opportunity to render a service to Me and a service to them, choose ye to serve them, and let such service be a path leading you to Me.”

What extraordinary significance this gives to the parent-child relationship. Service to a loving father and mother becomes a pathway to God.

This Father’s Day, let us look beyond the cards, gifts, and celebrations. Let us reflect on the fathers who have quietly shaped lives, strengthened families, and nurtured generations through their sacrifices and devotion.

Celebrating Naw-Ruz with family in Thames Valley

Naw-Ruz in Thames Valley Baha'is celebrate Naw-Ruz in 2012
Three generations of Baha'is celebrate Naw-Ruz together in 2012 in the Thames Valley.

Family is important to Bahá’ís throughout the world, so for three generations of Bahá’ís living in West Berkshire there was nothing better than getting together to celebrate Naw-Ruz.

All three generations of the same family, as well as their friends, celebrated the Bahá’í New Year by going out for a meal, then gathered together to continue the celebration with prayers, socialising and more food in Newbury.

Myra Erbenova said: “Naw-Ruz is a very important day for Bahá’ís everywhere. It symbolises new beginnings in all aspects of life. It’s the dawn of a new day for the whole of mankind and when we look forward to a united world.”

Most societies and cultures recognise the family as a necessary and fundamental unit, but many changes are occurring to threaten its well-being and the happiness of its members. Bahá’ís recognise the family is a microcosm of the world.

Myra said: “The family’s unity must be preserved if the unity and peace of our planet is to be realised.”